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Q.  My boyfriend and I have been talking about having sex and he is MUCH bigger than any other guy I have been with. I don’t know what positions I should use to WOW him because I can do anything I just need some help. Advice?

A.  I’m assuming you want something spicy to start things off right. I would suggest:

You’re in complete control here, and the reason it feels so good is that you’re  literally sitting on his member, giving him no choice but to bury himself deep  inside you. And when he’s upside down, the blood will rush to his head, allowing  him to experience what’s called erotic inversion, and sending tingles to his  upper body that will turn his climax into an otherworldly experience.


This position will allow you to manually stimulate yourself while he thrusts.  Tilt your pelvis and contract your PC muscles and experience mind-blowing g-spot stimulation. 

And since you said he’s big, try:

You’ll control the depth of penetration in this position.  If his size takes some getting used to, meet him with shallow thrusts.  Rock and writhe your way to bliss. 

Either way, don’t put so much effort on “wowing” him for the first time and lose out on enjoying the first time.  Take things slow and add some foreplay so you’ll be all prepared to take all of him in, literally.  Try out some lube, to keep things slippery.  Or add some unisex arousal balm to kick things up another notch.  Most of all enjoy!  Don’t feel pressure to pull out all the stops in the beginning because you don’t want things to get stale.

Hope this helps!  Happy Sex!

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