Dear Ask a Man,
I recently had an amazingly kinky & freaky sexual encounter with a man that I really didn’t know that well but was very sexually attracted to. I did things that I’ve never done before. I couldn’t look at myself in the mirror for a good 24 hours. I’m not sure how to feel about him not calling me for a few days after our sex session. I feel like I deserve at least a phone call! Am I wrong or missing something here?
Dear Amazingly Kinky Freak,
You’re not doing any man ANY favors by having sex with him. You are not just sexing him because he wants to sex you. You’re doing it because YOU want to do it! You found someone that made you comfortable enough to do whatever nasty things you ENJOYED doing and or having done to you. Stop acting and or feeling like a man OWES you something AFTER the fact. Licking a man’s ass, letting him sex you in the ass, or swallowing his semen does not obligate him to call you back! You can’t negotiate the terms of the “relationship” with your vagina! You can’t even use them to renegotiate the terms of the deal! So, from now on don’t ever try to do it again.
You don’t know why he didn’t call, and I assume you didn’t call him either. He could actually have a woman in his life that is a bigger priority than you; he could be tied up with work or school. You have no way to know so it’s pointless to fill in the blanks about what he may or may not be thinking or how he may or may not be acting. I think you should have done a better job of taking into consideration what your mental and emotional state would be after such an experience with someone that you knew you didn’t know that well.
With all of that being said, I would love an opportunity to evaluate you interpretation of what “amazingly kinky & freaky” sex is.
Best of luck